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Over the last couple of years, I’ve been writing a novel with a ghost character. This has led me to ponder my dead mother’s spirit. She sometimes feels close to me, but sometimes I’m not so sure. A few days ago, my partner and I asked our dead parents to give us a “sign” if they were near.

Later that day a woman I haven’t seen in 33 years contacted me through this website. She’d long lost touch with my family, but had been thinking about us for years. She wrote:

Hello Farzana
If the above mentioned people [names were in the subject line] are your parents (mother now deceased) I would love to hear from you.
Banu died a long time ago in Oshawa, Ont. and I lost touch with your father … If the connection is correct, I have to tell you that your Mom asked if she could name you Farzana because she liked my name. We all lived in Livingstone, Zambia at the same time and they moved to Halifax, then to Oshawa. Would love to know if you are the same little girl.           Farzana

I’ve since reconnected with my namesake, and perhaps too, with my mother.




  1. I love this and it brought a tear! Thanks for sharing it, Farzana.

  2. Amazing! Yes, she’s still with you and you got your confirmation.

  3. Hi Farzana!! I was in a library looking at a book called “The Wondrous Woo” and there was your name on the back cover as a reviewer!!

    Little Farzana!! You had just a cute smile and round big eyes… I used to babysit you when you lived in Whitby. Your mother, Banu, was a lovely and gentle spirit. She had the most infectious and child-like giggle…I still hear it.

    Congratulations on your accomplishments and hello to your family.

    Take care, Karen (Bouwma) Flim

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      Karen! It’s really nice to hear from you. I’ve often wondered how you all are. I went by the old house a year ago and then passed your family’s place. Please pass on my well wishes to all of them. Your parents were a big support to mine during my mother’s illness–really wonderful neighbours and friends. And I recall that Rob was my playmate and Sylvie also babysit me. So many memories from Manning/Hazelwood.

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